Wednesday, July 27, 2011

To go or not to go..

From what my husband is telling me via emails, there are rumors he will be gone again for a month around october/november-ish.  Originally, in october, he was just supposed to be gone for two weeks, home in time for his daughter's first birthday, then out again for a week.  I really liked that schedule just because he would be able to celebrate her birthday especially since he missed her birth last year.

Anyways, hearing that he might be gone for a month (I know it is not that long), my husband offered to send me back home to Hawaii.  With it just for a month I would not even think about going back, just to save money, but seeing that it is around the time of her birthday it would be nice to celebrate it with family and friends..  I am not sure what to do.  So I'll do a pro and con list.

Going to Hawaii
Pros:
Celebrating her first bday together
Get gifts/money to put in my daughter's college fund from the party
Spending time with family and friends
Will not be alone for a month
Parents will get to spend more time with my daughter

Cons:
Alyssa will be more fussy/difficult traveling since she is more active
Stressing out about planning her bday party (invitations, entertainment, guests)
Drama with family and friends
Spending $500+ on a plane ticket
Spending A LOT money hanging out with friends


Staying in SD
Cons:
I will be in my own home without parents telling me what to do
Be able to save more money
Hanging out with friends

Pros:
LONELY


I don't know what to do...  I just had to vent/let this out.

Thanks for reading,

2 comments:

Janel said...

It's always nice to spend time with family, though financially it would be a strain. Birthday parties are pretty expensive. You know, family friends bring more friends, etc. sometimes people you don't even know. Yes, you will receive cash gifts to put away for your daughter but chances are you will have spend way more than what you get back. BUT it's her first birthday, so it would be fun for your family to be with her. Another thing though is, she won't even remember her first birthday... I agree on the plane ticket... they just keep getting more & more expensive. And yes, hanging out with friends does get costly. I kinda have a similar dilemma that I'll do a post on it sometime soon. I'm not much help, but just thought I'd share my thoughts on your situation :) Hope you're not stressing too much though.

Tiffany @ Life as a Southern girl said...

aww my Daughter's name is Alyssa :)